His & Hers

YOU WILL NEVER BE THEIR ONLY ‘PARENT’ ‘Femi Adekunle on Parenting Growing up in those days, we were weaned to respect, value, and appreciate the extended family system, which is one of the strengths of our African cultural setting. We grew up being close to our cousins, aunties, uncles, and grandparents. I recollect that many of us looked forward to …

TREAT THEM FAIRLY BUT NOT EQUALLY ‘Femi Adekunle on Parenting   Sounds strange, doesn’t it? A wise man once said that there is no greater inequality than the equal treatment of unequal. Having to raise more than 2 children has strongly reinforced my belief in this saying even much more. On a daily basis, I see how different, dissimilar and …

NEVER GET TIRED OF GIVING INSTRUCTIONS When we were young, I remember my parents always screaming in my dialect alaigboran! Meaning that we were quite stubborn and disobedient. Now, as a parent, I can’t count how many times I have screamed the same frustration on my children! Imagine having to remind your grown-up children to make their beds when they …

THEIR NATURE DETERMINES HOW YOU NURTURE THEM Having many children has really opened my eyes to the depth of individual child uniqueness, more so when you have twins. For the twins, I discovered that different things excite, motivate, challenge, and upset them. While one of them thrives in an atmosphere of competition, i.e., motivated by opposition, the other is more …

DON’T JUST PREPARE, DEVELOP ‘Femi Adekunle on Parenting When we talk about parenting, we always hear people say “prepare for parenting”. This is very correct. However, I have discovered that preparation is not enough, we must develop. To be up to date with your child, you must update. The place of preparation has been emphasized, but development is superior to …

PARENTING IS NOT A COMPETITION ‘Femi Adekunle on Parenting It was the annual inter-house sports competition in my children’s school. The weather was clement with expectations running high from the organisers, the competitors, cheering spectators and of course, parents. One of the events – the popular 100 meters sprint – was about to take off, and you could not but …

NASTY BUT NOT RUDE Someone said there are two times when you feel like running away from home: when you are fifteen and when your daughter is fifteen. Even if I didn’t believe this when I first heard it, I did when my children became teenagers. What is it that makes teenagers so special and unique? They are confused themselves. …

THE AMUSING PART OF CHILDREN ‘Femi Adekunle Often, children are comic reliefs. As parents, we should see the fun in things and not be uptight as we are wont to, many times, especially when it comes to our children’s performance in any sphere or endeavour. We expect so much from them that failure to meet that expectation of ours leaves …

Airport Wahala: video.When are we going to be organised? The new Nnamdi Azikiwe International Airport Departure Hall looks very beautiful, and without mincing words, a lot has been spent by the Nigerian Government to achieve this. Visiting the new departure hall for the first time, you will definitely lose your way. Losing your way becomes an opportunity for some groups …

Ambassador Ajibola Bello Urges Nigerians to Embrace Peace …Says Peace is Necessary for Nigeria’s Sustainable Development One of the recipients of Peace Ambassadors of Nigeria,Elhadj Ajbola Bello has called on every Nigerian to embrace peace for the country to develop and prosper. Elhadj Bello stated this at the weekend in Abuja shortly after he received an award at the inauguration …