THE PURPOSE OF LIFE IS BIGGER THAN RAISING CHILDREN ‘Femi Adekunle on Parenting I did make the point in my last article that your children are not more important than your spouse. Neither, I now say, are they more important than you. Let me explain. Sacrificial parents labour, toil and slave for their children. They…
COMPARE NOTES ‘ Femi Adekunle on Parenting In the daunting task of parenting, you need encouragement. You could get so overwhelmed and frustrated that you feel like giving up. One of the things that can keep you going is to touch base with fellow parents and compare notes. My wife and I once visited a…
PAY _CLOSE_ ATTENTION TO THEIR TALENTS AND GIFTS ‘ Femi Adekunle on Parenting This title sounds so simplistic, but it’s quite deeper than it sounds. I’ll use some illustrations to explain. It’s so easy for parents to jump into conclusions when they see their children manifest some ‘gifts’, or be misled into jumping into…
LET’S LESSEN THE PRESSURE BURDEN ON THEM ‘Femi Adekunle on Parenting From toddlers to pre-schoolers to adolescents to adults, everyone is under different colorations of pressure. A renowned professor told the story of how his mum sacrificed so much to educate him. He gained admission into the university at a time when the financial fortune…
THEIR STRENGTH IS SUPERIOR TO THEIR FLAWS ‘ Femi Adekunle on Parenting When I was young, I was very poor in mathematics (I still am). I struggled endlessly with that subject. While in primary and secondary (high) schools, one of the most dreadful punishments I could face was to be given a math problem to…
FIND YOUR SYNERGIES ‘Femi Adekunle on Parenting As someone said, conflict is inevitable in life, but combat is a choice. It’s same in the home. Where conflict ensues, they are meant to be resolved rather than resorting to hostilities. I am not an avid TV person. Besides listening to news and watching documentaries, and sometimes…
GIVE THE SWEETS BUT SHOW THE SWEAT ‘ Femi Adekunle on Parenting I have discovered that children will grow roots in the soil on which they have been planted. In other words, their mindset will evolve within the space of their nurture and exposure. If they have been exposed to too much poverty, they will…
CONTINUOUS DETOXIFICATION AND RECALIBRATION, A MUST ‘Femi Adekunle on Parenting Years ago when my daughter was a toddler, we enrolled her in a kindergarten school. One day she came home and asked ‘mummy, is it el-u, em-u, en-u’? At first it was a puzzle to us and she struggled to explain what her class teacher…
BE IN ONE ANOTHER’S WORLDS ‘Femi Adekunle on Parenting Quite often we are too obsessed with the pessimistic side of life that we stifle the atmosphere for excitement in the home. The home is a theatre of activities where the interests of the parents and their children will, from time to time clash. This may…
RESULTS ARE NOT SUPERIOR TO EFFORTS ‘ Femi Adekunle on Parenting It was vacation and I went to pick my children from their school hostel. The students were excitedly savouring the end-of-term ecstasy and looking forward to going home to be with their parents and siblings. I watched as they ran up and down at…
